"Nobody Has Seen Us Quarrel" - Tunde And Wunmi Obe

Foremost showbiz couple Tunde and Wunmi Obe "T.W.O" have blazed t,he trail as one of the best couples in the entertainment industry. In a recent interview with Punch, they revealed the secrets of their 15-year-old union. Here’s an excerpt from they said  below...

How many years have you been married?

Wunmi: 15 years.

What has the experience been like?

Wunmi: Just like any other marriage, we have had our challenges but if you love each other and are determined to make it work, it will. It depends on how you view the marriage and your partner. Also, it depends on if you got married for the right reasons. We are friends and we enjoy each other’s company. We talk, argue, throw banters and make each other laugh. Every marriage face challenges but thank God, it’s been good and we remain each other’s friends.

Do you quarrel?

Wunmi: Of course. It will sound fake if we don’t quarrel.

Who apologises first?

Wunmi: I do.

Tunde: We don’t quarrel, we disagree. We devised a process, where we don’t use abusive words when we disagree. There are no shouts, no noise and each person makes their point known as if you are in a boardroom. We normally agree at the end of the day. I apologise too but Wunmi is always quick to say, “I’m sorry.” We thank God that our disagreement has never got out of hands. Nobody has seen Wunmi and I quarrel, not even our children.

Not even a third party?

Wunmi: We don’t allow a third party because there was no third party when we decided to get married. A lot of couples involve third party because they don’t know how to deal with each other. When you are determined that this marriage would work, you will take steps without inviting a third party.

Are you always going out together?

Wunmi: No. We have our individual lives. Even when people see me in the malls or markets, they ask why didn’t I come with him. We do move about together but we still do things separately. We have same business but we don’t have to be together always. He could go for meetings outside Lagos and I would be with the children. We have our strengths which we combine for our benefits. We do different things at different times.

Any regrets been married to each other?

Tunde: No, not after 25 years of being together.

Do you get mad at some wayward female fans?

Wunmi: First, we are artistes and cannot erase the issue of having fans-male or female. Whenever I am with him, I don’t have nasty experiences from any fan. Moreover, I trust him to be able to handle such matters if they ever occur. He is mature and intelligent to handle it.

What gives you the assurance that he will not fall into temptation?

Wunmi: I have seen him react in the face of temptation several times and I trust him. We have come a long way.

What if anyone tells you something about him?

Wunmi: Women have to keep it at the back of the mind that idle talks destroy any home. Why is that person telling you something about your spouse? Even if it’s true, you apply wisdom and go about it carefully. My maxim is, what I don’t know would not hurt me. I don’t have to go through his phone to check call logs or read text messages. A man, who is inclined to adultery, when he is caught, will not change; rather, he will be more careful!

Tunde: If a lot of women had allowed certain situations to simmer, not fester and pass away, they would still have their homes. A man you put under pressure to the point of frustration will walk into the hands of another woman.

Source: Punch